I stayed in bed until 11am today.
Mahalia got up late too.
She was astonished that I let her sleep in till 10am!
It was cold so Caspian wasn’t complaining too greatly about sleeping in either.
I rolled out of bed into the bath.
Watched the first episode of ‘Orange is the New Black’ whilst soaking in hot Epson Salts.
When I was finally out and dressed I was looking for some food.
But other things got in the way.
Mahalia had stacked most of the wood Graham had dropped off and she had gone off walking with Katherine.
So I stacked the rest of it.
Moved a heap of timber to tidy up thing.
Then Nathan helped me move the small stack of wood Anson had left a while back.
Got it all stacked together so I could cover it all more easily.
Then we put the boxes of kindling into the shed out of the rain.
The rain was just beginning to fall.
Damp enough to be annoying but not heavy enough to cause too much damage.
Nathan & Mira went off shopping so I made some poached eggs on toast and watched another episode of Orange is the New Black.
Whizzed over to the airport to pick up a friend and when home the girls thought pizza sounded like pretty good idea for dinner so I mossied off down the street and got a pizza & chips.
Milton St Takeaways do a really good special pizza with spinach, feta, caramelised onions & walnuts.
The girls had also made some baked potatoes while I was gone.
We curled up on the sofa and watched a few episodes of The Paradise while we ate dinner.
Today was the first day we turned on the heat pump in the hall.
Had the fire blazing all day so the house was nice and cosy.
I’m not that keen on the heat pump type of heat, it doesn’t warm you up like the wood fire does, so I am glad to have a good supply of wood for the winter.
Began my 48 hours on the pager at 8am so was up, not really ready for the day.
Was feeling like rubbish..
So after the girls headed off to NMIT so I took Caspian for a walk around the block.
It was a cool morning but sunny.
Here’s home from across the road as we came back.
I think my jacaranda tree needs a prune.
You don’t realise how big it is until you take time to look back at it.
I walked down to the Sprig & Fern to meet Adam at 10:15am.
It was really nice sitting out on the deck in the sun while we discussed some business.
An hour later and the sun was retreating behind the trees so we came back home to suss out a few details.
Then he headed off.
Had a fairly fraught half an hour, my temper was pushed and I hit the roof about some issues.
Then Graham arrived so I took my frustrations out on unloading the trailer of wood.
Had only just finished that when I got called for work just before 1pm.
Spent the next hour plus working and then dropped into Women’s Centre to write my report.
Picked up a baked potato on the way as I was getting rather hungry by this time.
Wrote up my report and had a relaxing chat with me of the other SASH ladies.
Finally dragged myself away and headed home.
It was beginning to get rather busy outside as there was a big rugby match on tonight.
I was totally oblivious to it until mid arvo.
Crusaders vs Hurricanes so all the fans were out in force.
Nathan & Mira were both at work by the time I got home.
They had long nights ahead with all the rugby supporters out on the town.
Mahalia was home and Caspian was enjoying her company.
Shanni arrived back, she had been to a job interview and then the hairdressers after polytec.
She was very happy with her cut and conditioning treatment 🙂
I zipped off to catch Briscoes before they closed as I knew their floor rugs were on special.
Had a ball there getting blankets, mats etc at some extremely amazing prices.
I also went to New World and got a few items, mainly went to get some mouse traps as Shanni has been hearing a little critter in her room.
Shanni cooked chicken and a starry with rice for dinner.
Sasha droped David & Anson off at the rugby and then came to hang out with us.
We had a girls movie night.
I had bought and Apple TV thingee a week or so back but hadn’t had a chance to figure out how to connect it up.
Mahalia & I got it sorted, it took a while which was a bit frustrating.
I was rather annoyed at the shop salesman, because when I had asked him how to get it working he just brushed me off and said, ‘Get your son to set it up for you’!
Sanctimonious young prat – there are some things in life that I want to do without being made to feel old and incapable!!
Anyway, we finally got it running and got Netflix working so we chose a movie called ‘From Prada to Nada’.
It was a very predictable chick flick, but fun to watch.
Just what we all wanted 🙂
Then soon after the movie ended the guys called to say the game was over so Sasha & Shanni went to pick them up.
Shanni went home with Anson for the weekend.
That left Mahalia & I home alone!
We both wanted something but the fridge and pantry wasn’t supplying our needs.
She wanted ice cream, so I hoped into the car and made a mercy dash to the supermarket.
However, I never took into account there were about 60 million people trying to depart from the game which was help only 3 blocks from here!
I shoulda taken a different route and gone to New World, but I didn’t.
I took the normal route and headed to Countdown – duh!
So here I am crawling along in bumper to bumper traffic watching the clock move closer and closer towards 10pm.
I’m thinking to myself, this was a stupid impulse…grrrr!
Then as I was crawling along I remembered that Sasha hadn’t asked the guys what the score was so I called Anson on the handsfree and had a chat.
Thrashed them in fact – 35-18!
Apparently that was unexpected so everyone in the South Island were most delighted 🙂
Anyway, I saw a glimpse of hope and zipped around the corner and got tot he supermarket with 3 mins to spare.
Raced to the ice creams and found the one Mahalia wanted.
Then remembered I had a voucher to use so spent the rest on a stash of naughty treats 😉
We hunkered down on the couch and watched the beginning of the 2nd season of The Paradise whilst devouring MallowPuffs.
I dont ‘do’ ice cream so left Halia to that pleasure.
Finally headed off to bed
I was planning to leave reasonably early to head back home but as the morning was very chilly I was happy to not be too rushed.
Not that keen on hitting the hills when there is a chance of frost on the roads.
The girls were getting ready to attend a Fullpower course for the morning that I had signed them up for.
I dropped them off at the ACC rooms at 9:15am and then went to do a couple of jobs.
Raced into New World to get a couple of items, zipped out to Tahunanui to return some lightbulbs and then back to fuel up the truck at Caltex.
Dropped some stuff back at the house and then I was gone.
It was a beautiful day.
Clear blue skies, and warm in the car, but not so hot outside.
There was a very chilly breeze blowing.
I had a fairly slow trip in as it got harder the closer I got.
Normally the tears don’t begin to well up until I get nearly home.
But today I was sitting with a huge ball of emotion in my gut just building and building most of the way, with tears seeping, then spilling the further I drove.
I stopped at Tim’s cairn for a few moments.
There is something about being here.
The place where Tim’s spirit left us.
It is spectacularly beautiful.
But an incredible sense of abandonment & sadness overwhelms me here.
I took this panorama while here – it gives a very strange perspective of the road behind and in front of me!
I finally carried on homewards.
Only another 20mins and I am at the house.
Anson was out doing his possum traps so the house was all quiet and cold.
I was horrified to find rat destruction through the hall and some bedrooms.
The mess was all too much 😦
So instead of dealing with it straight away I called up Jesika and had a chat with her to take my mind of everything.
Azzan arrived soon after with Phoebe & Seb and Sapphie.
He got stuck in and vacuumed up the mess which helped me face what I needed to do.
I began cleaning out my bedroom and Azzan helped me load a heap of boxes into the Nissan.
Seb dug out a few plants for me to bring back to town.
I didn’t want much, just a rose, Jesika & Evan’s wedding protea and some bulbs.
Phoebe took some cuttings from around the garden and then I began sorting stuff inside.
Azzan was very helpful and looked after his wee niece.
They found my bag of chips and finished them off 🙂
As Azzan vacuumed watch bedroom he closed the door to leave them empty and clean.
I finally got the school room done.
Sapphie discovered the empty bookcase and quickly turned it into a climbing wall.
She is certainly displaying talents her aunts would be proud of!!
Anson arrived back home.
He was very cold.
No wonder, the rest of NZ was in the grips of a winter storm bringing low thick snow down low in many areas south of us.
We were just getting the resulting colds winds.
He & I had been invited to Sandra & Phil’s for dinner.
So as soon as Seb & Phoebe headed off we raced around getting ready to go.
I managed to finish packing up the car.
I made sure I had as much onboard as I could take.
Anson left before me.
I wanted to make sure all was tidy and as clear as I could make it, plus was still fitting in more boxes and stuff to take out.
Finally left just before 6:30pm.
We arrived down in Bulwer to a lovely warm house and delicious dinner.
Spent the evening getting to know Tim & Martin’s cousin Gill & her eldest son David better.
It was the first time she had ever been to Port Ligar.
Phil had taken them fishing this arvo and they were enjoying their catch with their dinner.
Had to do a tad of photo cropping here because Martin & Gill’s faces would not cooperate with the camera – worse than taking photos of the kids!
Marah was messaging me throughout the evening, sending these cute photos of Eden & Aaliyah which everyone enjoyed with me 🙂
Everyone began making moves towards their beds soon after 9:30pm.
I decided to head off home to Nelson.
I did have the invitation to stay the night but felt I just wanted to get home.
It was a long drive and I had to stop a many times to rest my eyes, but I finally pulled in the gate at 1am.
A very long day and an extremely long 3 hour drive but I was glad to be back in my own bed.
I had an early start to the day as needed to get the Nissan in to get its tyres replaced.
Seb was also up early, Carl called by and collected him as they had groomsmen duties to perform.
I dropped my car off and then whizzed over to Tahunanui.
Had coffee with a friend and then headed back home around 10am.
Mahalia had gone off shopping with Phoebe & Sapphie.
I wasn’t here long before I got a call to say my Nissan was all done.
Nathan & Mira were heading into town so they dropped me off.
I am not a great passenger so it was a fairly fraught trip
Back home, emotions had plummeted.
Feeling rather sad and sorry of myself which resulted in a few tears.
The girls arrived back from their shopping trip and quickly got ready for the wedding.
Both had pretty new dresses to wear.
Mahalia dressed Sapphie while Phoebe got herself prettied up.
Couldnt let them out the door without a quick photo session.
I showed Phoebe how to find the venue on google maps as she had not been there before and they were off.
I heard Caspian doing his guard dog act and saw Shannie hoisting her bike over the puppy fence.
David & Sasha had come into Tahunanui so she biked back from there.
After her late night at the birthday party and the ride home she was rather tired.
We had a quick clean up of the house.
I was still feeling really down.
Hopped into the shower at 2pm to try and wash away the blues.
Had just managed to get myself dressed and made up when I heard voices in the kitchen.
Martin & Sylvia had just picked up cousin Gill and her eldest son David from the airport.
It was lovely to met them both.
Its been 19 years since we met Gill during our 9 week North Island trip with 6 kids in a landrover and caravan.
They came to meet Nathan, Shoshannah & Mahalia who were briefly & unusually all back at the house together at the same time.
Had a chat for half an hour and then they went back to Martin & Sylvia’s for a while.
I drove out to Richmond and popped into pick up something from Margaret.
Then back to Stoke by 4pm to help set up the hall for the 2nd of our Nelson VanAid quiz nights.
I worked alongside the others to get the hall all ready to go.
Then at 5:45pm I got a call from Azzan saying they were back so I whizzed out to get him.
He had been out to Takaka on a caving expedition with Cat & Leeann and was fair buzzing with the excitement of it all.
He was also wanting to come to dinner with me and meet his cousins so we really happy when I was able to pick him up.
We arrived at East Street Cafe around and had enough time to freshen up before Martin, Sylvia, Gill & David arrived.
We had a delightful evening.
Great food, wonderful wait staff, good company, and exceptional entertainment from Azzan 🙂
We finally left around 9pm.
Venturing out into a rather chilly, almost icy evening so we didn’t muck about outside.
Back home to a deliciously warm fire.
Phoebe & Sapphie were back from the wedding as it was ‘no children after 5pm’, and the girls were all watching a movie together.
I had managed to turn my emotional switch from Blue to Orange so the day ended happily 🙂
I had to take Azzan to his 9:45am appointment so we headed off, running a tad late-ish and somehow he never got any breakfast.
I dropped him off to get a Tank smoothie while I went on ahead.
While he was busy with Shane I did several jobs.
Talked to Jane and got things kicked along again re the farm.
I’ve been putting a lot of stuff in the too hard basket and just burying my head for a while so I don’t have to deal with it all.
But I have to get things sorted.
They’re not going to sort themselves
Picked up Azzan and then went and got Shanni’s prescriptions filled.
Azzan ran in and pick dup his dvd from Sarah-Jane on the way past SASH and then we were back home again.
He was desperately trying to get some food sorted when his cycling tutor arrived early.
He had a quick munch, learned about the importance of oiling his bike chain, getting the seat to the right height etc, and then they were off.
They arrived back an hour later and he was buzzing.
So good to see him getting his confidence restored and enjoying his bike again, and even more than before.
Bruce gave me a list of essential things to get for his bike and told us that Azzan had the potential to be a fantastic mountain biker.
I spent some time catching up on paper work, business stuff and banking.
It was so bright and sunny in my bedroom I sat on my bed to soak up some Vit D while trying to focus on the job.
I tend to put off doing the office work because it is too stressful and if I can’t focus properly I know I will make mistakes.
So have to find a quiet spot and more than a few moments spare to be able to do it.
Seb & Phoebe were in town getting the vehicle fixed and getting organised for Bud’s wedding.
Seb is one of the groomsmen.
Phoebe & Sapphie came to stay for a while. Sapphie was getting rather weary.
I was amused as to the intense concentration this usually busy wee buzzy bee had for the music.
She was sitting on my bedroom rug while we were all talking above her, so focused, and every now and then would do a wee bottom dance, glance up at us, and then go back to her video.
Phoebe gave her a feed and settled her to sleep.
Then leaving her in Mahalia’s tender care we raced into town to try and sort out some bank stuff.
Discovered it is nigh impossible to open a bank account unless they have more ID from you than you can possibly have.
It makes me wonder how someone who is homeless, jobless, etc can ever get ahead, or how they can even have a bank account to receive their govt payments??
And hey!! We want to give you our money!
A passport is not acceptable.
A drivers licence in your maiden name is unacceptable – opps, funny how things we use daily we forget to update.
I remember my mother being pulled up by a traffic office when I was in my teens and only then realising her drivers licence was still in her maiden name!!
Proof of address, sorta easy, but in an age when everything is electronic not a lot of mail is posted.
But no, it is even harder, proof of physical address is required.
And that is one thing I have battled with for the past 36 years – welcome to my world Phoebe 😉
How can you get proof of our physical address when nothing is ever posted to you at that address because if it were then you would never receive it????
Frustrating to the absolute max.
Especially when it is 5pm on a Friday evening.
Oh well, at least in amongst it all she gets to have her licence updated 😉
And maybe next visit to town she might just find a bank who will accept that she does exist!
In amongst all of this I was directing Azzan down the street to the bus station where he was meeting Shoshannah who was biking down as she needed to take her bike out to Richmond.
They found each other and she began teaching him how to use the buses.
It is the first time he has ever used the bus service.
Never needed to so when he wanted to get out to David & Sasha’s tonight figured it was a good time to start.
He is off on an adventure with Cat & Leeann tomorrow and is very excited 🙂
We seriously needed sustenance by the time we had gotten mentally confused by all the requirements so grabbed some Starbucks and then came back home via the AA where we found out the info required to update a certain drivers licence.
Decided to make a big pot of pumpkin & potato soup for dinner.
I added fried onions and grated zucchini, chickpeas, garlic, garam masala, – it was a delicious start to our winter soup making.
Had it with fresh buns.
See arrived back so we sent him down the street with Mahalia to get some hot chips to add to the meal.
He was so weary he asked if he could drive there 😉
But Mahalia bounced along behind him and they managed to walk the 120m.
They took forever to arrive back – they shop was busy but sounds like the order got a bit lost in the proceedings.
I shoulda just phoned it through first – will remember next time!
A friend arrived and enjoyed dinner with us then we went off for drinks at the Sprig & Fern.
Lovely to catch up, it’s been a while.
It was a chilly evening out but rather lovely walking under the clear evening skies.
A damp start to the day.
A bit of rain forecast but it was soon b own over.
I dropped Mahalia off at class and headed on out to Richmond.
Sasha needed to get into the hospital for some hydrotherapy so I was her taxi this morning.
On the way I picked up Shanni’s laptop which Ross had thankfully been able to dry out and resurrect after she split some liquid on it last week.
Then Sasha lay on my back seat as it was too uncomfortable for her to sit up, and we zipped back into the hospital.
Dropped her off and popped back home for half an hour.
The boys were getting themselves up and breakfasted.
I left Azzan getting things done.
He was okay about being left to do things because Nathan was home too.
I grabbed a mocha and filled bun from The Bakers and went back to the hospital to pick up Sasha.
Treatment had been beneficial so that was great.
We zipped back to Richmond and I left her to go rest up and drove back into Nelson.
Had 10minutes up my sleeve to stopped off to sort out some new tyres for the Nissan.
Nice to chat with Dave again.
He has always looked after us and since Tim has gone he has been extra helpful and caring.
Really appreciate the extra mile.
Then I zipped to Founders to meet Jana for lunch.
We had decided to try somewhere new and were not disappointed.
Cannot believe the place was not crowded.
The food was really good.
I ordered the small nachos and was presented with this huge plate full.
It oak me ages to finally do it justice and empty the bowl.
Thoroughly recommend the place 🙂
We managed to successfully fill in the better part of 2 hours eating and talking.
Then Jana came back home with me to suss out my new abode.
Ever since Azzan’s cycle accident he has lost confidence and would not tackle biking anywhere.
So in desperation I began googling for help.
I found this website which directed me to Marty who I have been corresponding with for several days.
Today he had a tutor sorted to begin lessons with Azzan.
Because of the rain it was postponed till this arvo.
Bruce had arrived a few minutes before I got back home and he was already helping Azzan with getting his bike types pumped up to the right compression.
Then after we introduced ourselves he took him off to Neale Park to get him going.
Before they left Azzan wouldn’t even consider biking out the gate.
But an hour later they arrived back and he was a different kid.
I am so thrilled with the confidence boost this is having already.
As Jana was leaving Rob arrived.
So we sat at the table and talked over some business.
He went off to check out a few things and I collapsed on my bed.
Nathan took Azzan to Kip McGrath and thankfully was able to pick him up later as I was exhausted.
Mahalia cooked dinner.
She made roast potato and camera cubes and a greek salad.
The stupid oven took forever to cook so we didn’t eat until way after 6pm.
Shanni was really tired.
She has a huge work day on Thursdays so is ready for collapesville when she gets home.
Plus she is having some health hassles which upset her in many ways.
So she is never too late from going to bed.
We had a good talk and some big hugs.
I hate not being able to fix my girl and make her all better 😦
It is so darned hard being a mother sometimes – actually a lot of times
But as I told my dear friend Wendy tonight – the best thing we can do for our children’s mother is to love her.
So I will be gentle on myself tonight 😉
Mahalia went across the street and babysat for an hour after dinner.
Nathan cleaned up most of the dinner dishes and then relaxed in the lounge.
Mira was at work.
I was trying to get some paperwork done but gave up and went to bed.